Just Be You

Hello again, I know this post is a bit later than usual but school is kind of crazy at the moment, which I am not using as an excuse just something I wanted to inform you of. I’m sure if you have read some of my previous posts you would understand that my posts tend to revolve around a quote that has inspired me. This posts quote is ‘Just Be You’ which is something that I have always heard people talk about. I used to zone out and not really consider the importance of being myself; I knew I never pretended to be someone else just because of who I was around.

  Being you is a scary thing and finding the right people to be yourself around is even harder, if anyone knows that it’s me.  I have changed group multiple times for a lot of different reasons form moving schools to disagreements. I’m happy that I have had to experience this because I have really learnt from my decisions. This is a part of life everyone has to go through, if you are on this journey, please do whatever makes you happy. It can be difficult if moving friendship groups mean you leave a lot of friends behind who, have changed and you can't see the friend that they used to be.  But people grow apart and develop as individuals. Meeting new people and friends is a part of growing up.

  Going back to the quote ‘Just Be You’ one of the challenges you need to face is being happy with who you are.  Confidence is a hard one to conquer but I finally got a sprinkle J This was due to many reasons but surrounding myself with people who made me feel special was the most important part. When you find someone who makes you feel amazing and loved, don’t let them go. This person (or a collection of people) can be a friend, family member or a significant other but whoever they are hold on to them.

  By keeping these special people in my life close it really allowed me to open up and talk to people about my feelings and troubles. One of my closest friends was someone I never even knew until one day she was sitting on her own in my GCSE music class. Since we started talking we clicked straight the way, she was someone I could tell anything too and trust indefinitely. Even though we never were part of the same group, her friendship to me meant the world.  Another close friend was someone I had been to school with for years but never really spoken with. We both instantly clicked and now all three of us are so close it makes me happy every time I see them, I just hope they understand how much they mean to me. Over these past three years in particular, friendship means more to me than it ever has. When you face a challenge in life, the friends who are always there for you and provide the ice cream are your true friends. Of course the ice cream isn’t vital but as a girl who has faced these challenges it always helps.

  When you find your true friends, most of mine I have bonded with due to classes and similar passions. It makes you feel happier and more confident in who you are; I think it’s the acceptance of being completely vulnerable around these people. I am personally a very emotional person which my friends will know well. I get way too nervous for things and panic when things aren’t organised. But I have people around me who support me to no end which allows me to cry if I need to and be a complete loon I can be.

 

  There is one last person who has really changed who I am for the better over the past six months or so. I’m not going to go all soppy and lovey dovey about it all, but he’s my best friend and someone I can be vulnerable around whenever I need to be. I know people debate about love and how I may be too young to know what it is. But I love him, no matter what anyone says or thinks, it’s true he is my first love.

 The one message I hope you took from this was that being yourself is scary, but finding the right people who bring out the best in you is the most important step to take. So find them and never, ever let go.

I hope you enjoyed reading this and I shall post again next week, no excuses this time. Bye for now, Love Phoebe Eve <3