Confidence.

So recently I was inspired by something I heard from a friend that is “I wish I could have the attitude I had when I was younger about my body because when we get older we become more conscious and obsessed with our bodies and looks. But when you were a kid you didn’t care and wore and did whatever you wanted to”. This is something I really do agree with, I wish I could have the confidence and care-free attitude I had when I was younger.

I think the media is one of the main problems, every day we see photos of ‘the perfect body’ and articles on ‘how to slim down’. The true fact is, there isn’t a perfect body. It’s just all crap the media feeds us, wanting us to buy the next issue so we can learn how to get models bodies. But even I know and realise that it is crap, I am still immersed by it all. We are forced to compare ourselves to others and see who has the best abs, ass, boobs, legs, stomach, hair, face, nose, arms, the list goes on. The worst part about it all is that it actually has a true effect on us and how we view ourselves. The pictures put into the media are ALL photo shopped and airbrushed, so the model or person in the photo doesn’t even look like that in real life. I know that the world won’t change and we will always be surrounded by this. We just need to try and change our attitudes.

Recently I haven’t been the happiest with myself as I compare myself to others very easily, I see them and how they have a thigh gap and a flat stomach you could do your school work on and for some reason I then just feel like shit about myself. So, I want to take a new attitude to my confidence in how I look. I don’t mean that suddenly I am going on a huge, stupid diet where all I eat is dust for three days or I am going to become cocky.

I just don’t want to be defined by that number that’s on my clothes or the amount of cake I eat or how much exercise I do and that I don’t do 100 squats and sit up’s a day. I am who I am. Screw the media with their fake ideas of ‘perfection’ NO ONE IS PERFECT. I am sure I will have days where I feel groggy and unattractive, everyone does. But I want to try and just think if I look good then who cares what size I am? With my diet I am just going to try and keep crappy foods to a minimum and just have some fruit instead, it’s not hard.  My plan here isn’t to lose weight or change myself, it’s just to make me feel good, which is how everyone should feel. I don’t want to sound cheesy but the fact is that, everyone is beautiful, we deny it, but we all are. So if someone compliments you, say thank you! Cherish that compliment and keep it in your pocket for a rainy day!

I am in no way telling you to change yourself, just your attitude, which is unless you are already happy with yourself and feel confident and if so good for you! I just think we should all embrace who we are; we are all individuals with lots of different things to offer the world. Spend a bit more time pampering yourself and just chilling out and having a nice cup of tea, look in the mirror in the morning and say “I look good”. One day, you won’t need to say it, you’ll know it.

Thank you if you got this far into the post, I just wanted to have a little rant at how crappy the media is for making up this idea of ‘perfection’. I love you all, speak soon, Phoebe Eve <3